Difference between Backbiting and Complaining?


What is the difference between backbitting and complaining?

A person does wrong to me and if I tell others he is doing wrong to me will also be considered as backbiting.

I wish to lead an islamic life but also I fear I need to sacrifice the comfort. How to balance on both islamic life and comfort?

Is it true that if a person is a status of ameer in tabligh jamath, he will not be questioned in day of Qiyamah. Bcz I noticed in few ameers inspite they do wrong to me and my family, they are very confident and also tell bad of me to others. Fellow tablighi also believe them with out analysing what happened. Even one ameer asked me do you know my status in tabligh?

He is very confident no one is going to believe him and can continue doing wrong to me and my wife.

Hence, I hate tabligh because in tabligh there is claim Allah (swt) should see a person with 70 rahmat to go in jamat and since they are of status of ameer, they feel they are elevated in the eyes of Allah swt.

I doesn’t want to forgive them or even intend to tit for tat them because they didn’t even feel sorry for what they did to me and my wife.

Will Allah swt be angry on me because I’m against his beloved ameers?

Will these ameers will be subjected to question in the day of qiyamah?


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

1.] Allah says in the Holy Quran;

لَّا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَن ظُلِمَ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا


“Allah does not like that evil should be expressed openly except by him who is oppressed. Allah is All hearing, All knowing.” [Surah-Nisa 148]

An oppressed person may speak about the oppression to avert the oppression or to warn others and not just to slander the person.

If you have been oppressed by the person in reference, then you should take the issue to the authorities who may bring justice to you.

When we look at the lives of Sahabah,  we observe that if they committed any mistake they would admit it and repent due to their consciousness of  the Akirah. They never looked at the fact that they were Sahabah. An Ameer of Jamaat is no where near the Sahabah.

You query refers: “In tabligh there is claim Allah (swt) should see a person with 70 rahmat to go in jamat”

This is not proven from any hadith. Though going in jamaat is a virtuous act but certain claims made by some ignorant brothers of jamat are incorrect. Our Akabir of Tabligh never made such statements.

We advise you to address these issues privately with the senior ‘Ulama’ of tabligh in your local/district markaz. They will be more suitable for rectifying the mistakes of the Ameer. For the time being, continue working towards the upliftment of Deen. The incorrect attitude of the Ameer should not deter you from taking part in the noble work of Tabligh.

At times a small action of negligence by a doctor claims the live of the patient. However we still consult doctors, express our trust in them and do not blame the whole medical industry. The misconduct is only attributed to the negligent professional and not to the profession. In the same way if the ameer in reference has done wrong to you, then he will be held accountablein the court of Allah no matter what status he holds in the jamaat. The noble work of tabligh which is engaged in transforming millions of lives should not be blamed for the Ameer’s wrongdoings.

2] We advise you identify an Ahl-ullah[saintly person] as your spiritual guide for your spiritual upliftment and guidance. You may listen to the Discourses on the Qaseedah Burdah by our beloved Ustaad Hazrat Mufti Ebrahim Desai Saheb to gain the love of Rasulullah Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam on the following link:


And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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