Question:

Please reply to my question as I am really confused and depressed with my life right now..

I am a married woman and I am blessed with a son who is few months old now..my husband lives with his elder brother in …… so two families live together..my husbands sister in law has served for years..she used to cook..wash clothes..of him as my husband was with his elder brother in one house..now..from the day of my marriage..i have been told that I too have to serve my husbands brother and his family as she took care of my husband..and the two families should stay United..

But the reality is becoming completely opposite..the sister in law is very stubborn and arrogant in nature..whenever I work in the kitchen..she smashes the doors of the kitchen cabinets..throws the utensils in the sink..and sometimes hits me too..i do every work..but still she bitches about me to mother in law and my husband sisters..i always keep silent..but the level of her arrogance is increasing day by day..i juggle between the household works and my infant son..but still she ignores the fact that my son needs me..she simply stays on the phone all the time..few days back..my son fell from the bed..got hit my daughter of sister in law..but even then..she stays mum..she neither asks about my health when I visit doctor during high fever..nor cares about my meal when she is cooking..she cooks precisely so that I don’t get the meal to eat..

My husband is financially weak compared to his elder brother..and there is no chance of him to get separated from his brother..as they share the expenses..neither I want separation.. but these things make me very depressed..even after doing day long works..i feel short of contentment and happiness as she makes me feel like I am underprivileged..she really uses sharp words towards me..i feel very sad as to how someone can be so harsh with her tongue for no reason..

I also feel bad for my son..as I can’t give time to him when he needs me the most..and I am really worried about his future..

Please provide a an authentic dua or wazifa suitable for my current situation..i do pray my salah and remember allah subhana wa ta’ala to provide me ease in this situation..

I would be eagerly waiting for your reply..please guide me with a solution mufti saheb..i would be very grateful to you..

Jazakallah khair..

 

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Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islam,

We understand your situation and make Dua that Allah Ta’āla grant you courage to deal with the situation and may Allah create ease for you. Aameen.

Allah Ta’āla says:

وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُمْ بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوفْ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍ مِّنَ الأَمَوَالِ وَالأنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ (بقرة: ١٥٥)

Translation: And most certainly We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives, and fruits. But give glad tidings to the patient ones. (Baqara: 155)

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اسْتَعِينُواْ بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلاَةِ إِنَّ اللّهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ (بقرة: ١٥٣)

Translation: O you who believe, seek help through patience and prayer. Surely, Allah is with those who are patient.

As Muslims, we are required to believe that every event that takes place in our lives is from Allah, whether it is good or bad. Allah the Almighty is our Creator, and He himself knows what is best for us.

The following Dua/Wazifah is effective in overcoming grief:

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ[1]

Translation: O Allah, I seek refuge in You from worry and grief, I seek refuge in You from incompetence and laziness, I seek refuge in You from cowardice and miserliness, and I seek in You from being overcome by debt and from being overpowered by (other) men. (Sunan Abi Dawood, 1555)

We advise you to discuss the issue with your husband and request his brother to address the issue with his wife and advise her accordingly.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

سنن أبي داود (2/ 93) [1]  

 حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدِ الْغُدَانِيُّ، أَخْبَرَنَا غَسَّانُ بْنُ عَوْفٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا الْجُرَيْرِيُّ، عَنْ أَبِي نَضْرَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، قَالَ: دَخَلَ رَسُولُ صَلَّى عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ الْمَسْجِدَ، فَإِذَا هُوَ بِرَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، يُقَالُ لَهُ: أَبُو أُمَامَةَ، فَقَالَ: «يَا أُمَامَةَ، مَا لِي أَرَاكَ جَالِسًا فِي الْمَسْجِدِ فِي غَيْرِ وَقْتِ الصَّلَاةِ؟»، قَالَ: هُمُومٌ لَزِمَتْنِي، وَدُيُونٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، قَالَ: «أَفَلَا أُعَلِّمُكَ كَلَامًا إِذَا أَنْتَ قُلْتَهُ أَذْهَبَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ هَمَّكَ، وَقَضَى عَنْكَ دَيْنَكَ؟»، قَالَ: قُلْتُ: بَلَى، يَا رَسُولَ، قَالَ: ” قُلْ إِذَا أَصْبَحْتَ، وَإِذَا أَمْسَيْتَ: اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحَزَنِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعَجْزِ وَالْكَسَلِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْجُبْنِ وَالْبُخْلِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ، وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ “، قَالَ: فَفَعَلْتُ ذَلِكَ، فَأَذْهَبَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ هَمِّي، وَقَضَى عَنِّي دَيْنِي