Dating In Islam

Question:

Is dating allowed in the case that the guy promised to marry the girl when he is ready? This could take a year or more and after he takes the permission of his parents.

Answer:

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

The concept of dating is completely alien to Islam and has no basis whatsoever. Dating is Haram as it also has many harms and negative consequences. In the enquired case, the boy promised to marry the girl. What if they went out together did everything as husband and wife and later the boy changes his mind and does not want to marry the girl? Imagine the negative consequences to the woman. She will be devastated as she was used by the person she trusted in and now he dumps her. She will have to deal with her emotional state for a long time.

Allah has given dignity to a woman in which lies peace and happiness. When she abandons the dignity through Haram activities like dating etc she loses her dignity and falls prey to grief and depression. A woman is like a sacred pearl. Whoever searches for her should do so through the sacred institution of Nikah in which the wholesome love and compassion follows after assuming full responsibilities for each other.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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