Should I Persevere in my Marriage even though my Husband is on drugs?

Question:

I require advise with regards to my marriage. I have been married for over a year and during this time I caught my husband with drugs and chats on his mobile with his ex girlfriend. I confronted him on this issue and made a big deal about it but it did not mean anything to him. He calmly apologized and goes back to doing the same after few weeks. I then told his parents and family members but his calls him back home and tells him to divorce. Im so frustrated and I want to go back home but if I leave him, he will be free to do as he wants. I want to make my marriage work and im trying by showing him extra love and attention but the response I get is always a blank and cold reply and he ignores me. What do I do in this situation? 

Answer:

In the Name of Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Sister in Islaam.

We are sad to note the conduct of your husband. Taking drugs and chatting with his ex-girlfriend have serious implications on the survival of the marriage. It is unfortunate that you do not have the support of his parents and family in restraining him.

Sister, we take note of your frustrations and your wish to make your marriage work. However, you should also face reality. If your husband does not reform and he gets deeper into drugs and chatting with women and you do not have the patience to go on, then you will be forced to end the marriage. However, that will be after much pain and grief. We advise you to avoid unnecessary pain and grief. You should consult with the seniors of your family and also make Istikhaarah on whether you should come out of the marriage now. The guidance of Allah Ta’ala is the best guidance. If you are guided to come out of the marriage, then place your trust in Allah Ta’ala and request your husband to issue you a divorce. This will save you from much grief and depression before eventually making a decision to come out of the marriage.

There is no need for you suffer in this marriage when your husband is violating his marital duties and he is insensitive to you.

And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

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