My friend is engaged to a boy since 2 years. She accepted the offer because her family wanted her to marry him. She learned to love this boy before she discovered this boy takes drugs e.g. .Because of this she lost her trust to him. She is afraid that her life (especially her religion) might ruined if she marries him. She doesn’t want to marry him. She wants to marry a boy that will teach her the religion of Allah. This guy is not just a drug addict but he is also an alcoholic, smoker and he doesn’t pray daily obligatory prayers.
She requested me to ask a scholar if it allowed to refuse so that the marriage will not happen. Please give her some advice. I pity her very much.
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
A marriage is a major step in a person’s life. If one has the right marriage partner, that will bring about peace and comfort in the marriage. A wrong marriage partner will lead to grief and agony.
It is therefore very important for one to exercise extreme precaution in committing to marrying someone. In the enquired case, the girl is not under any obligation to marry the person. Shariah does not recognise the concept of an engagement. At most, it may be regarded as a promise to marry. If the sister does not want to marry the person due to what has been discovered, she should simply inform the boy that she is ending the engagement and she does not want to marry him.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.